Rubber band theory dating
It plays on the idea that like a rubber band, the man will start to want his space and pull back. You said he is looking for work, an apartment and there is a family member that is sick.
But the further you pull the rubber band apart, the more strongly it will come together creating an even closer relationship. Being a little mysterious, or better yet, being independent is much more attractive than being a girl who has nothing better with her time than to sit around and wait for some of his attention. At this point, I would lean back and let him come to you. Both signs are very proud, we like to help others but would NEVER ask for help, although we could use some. When you asked him before about the distance, what did he say? Like "I've noticed some distance lately, just curious if there is anything you want to talk about". Then you might have to push to get the answer from him. And don't let him off easy with a "I've been busy remark" either.
Women spend a discomforting amount of time trying to figure out the weird and wonderful world that exists inside a man’s head.
Womankind has matched mankind in intelligence, physical agility, business acumen and balls, but still one area remains as baffling to us as the Bermuda triangle; and that is the male himself.
According to Jenni Trent Hughes of e Harmony, men are more likely to marry for companionship and women for a stronger sense of self, offered through a partner's love and support.
If we go on this theory, then it would make sense that the majority of men who marry are emotionally available for connection and deeply desire it.
What I would do is offer him a home cooked meal, movie night or to come over for drinks, anything where he doesn't feel obliged to dish out a lot of money. You might have to come right out and ask if something has happened to make him want to distance from you. I don't know how much you're contacting him, but if you're one initiating contact, asking for time then it doesn't allow him to and it comes across as chasing and desperate.
For instance, getting a job would be number one priority and he may not want to proceed in the relationship because he doesn't know where or how he'll end up.This accounts for women's ability to have better verbal skills and intuition.Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence.”The greatest mistake we can ever make in a relationship, is to assume that our other half has the same needs and feelings as ourselves. With this space comes tension, just like you would see when you pull a rubber band in two separate directions. But then I realized, the opposite of pulling away is when you cling on and seek even more attention=not good. s probably nothing more annoying to a guy when a girl is at his beckoning call, waiting, practically begging for his attention. Make plans with the girls (don't break those plans for him if he contacts), go shopping, go to the movies, whatever it takes to keep busy. Both Caps and Sag will close up when they are depressed. I'm going to copy from the John Grey book and post the theory with his explanation on the relationships board. Instead of chasing after him, the woman should let him have his space, and maybe even pull back a bit herself. Caps like to have stability and control in their lives.
, I've been insecure about the fact that men need space in relationships. When 1,040 married couples were surveyed in 2012, results revealed that husbands are keener on spending time with their spouses than are wives.